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The topic of relationships and being in love is one of the most sought after topics of all time. Everyone wants to love and be loved, because it is the very fabric of our creation. No matter our experiences or how much we lie to ourselves and others, we all long to love and be loved because it was from love we were created (1 John 4:8 & Genesis 1:27). Sadly we have been led down wrong paths and taught wrong theologies and beliefs about love and we as a Christian community have paid dearly for it. But, Jesus taught us well how to love and walk out love Gods way.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love (1 John 4:8 NIV)
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them (Genesis 1:27 NIV).
The church has adopted and been influenced by a lot of the worlds ways when it comes to love and marriage. We date recreationally, we create, entertain, and invest ourselves into relationships that we joined together; relationships that were never meant for us (1 John 2:19). Then because we joined our own relationships/marriages together, we end up divorced and/or having the same wreckage and bondage that the rest of the world has. Sending the message to ourselves and to others that we Christians are just as bad at marriage and relationships as the next guy. When that is just not true, we are just being destroyed from a lack of not knowing any better (Hosea 4:6). We've awakened love before it was time and we called it God, when the truth is it was our own doing (Solomon 8:4). When God created marriage in such a way where we were meant to be free and whole, having a life filled with divine purpose, intention, and destiny (Psalms 139:16).
They went out from us, but they did not really belong to us. For if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us; but their going showed that none of them belonged to us (1 John 2:19 NIV).
My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. "Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children (Hosea 4:6 NIV).
Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you, do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time (Solomon 8:4 CSB).
Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be (Psalms 139:16 NIV).
Let me show you.
Jesus said, marriage from the beginning was intended to be a specific creation. Where a man and a woman were created together to one day come together as one on this earth. Their coming together as one on this earth was to be done after coming up out of the sin and affliction they were born into. This meant that we were intended to come whole to the union that God had created us with and for (Psalms 51:5 & Matthew 19:4-6).
For I was born a sinner— yes, from the moment my mother conceived me (Psalms 51:5 NLT).
Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them "male and female," and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate (Matthew 19:4-6 NIV)."
If we continue to date recklessly and aimlessly, we will only do more damage to our soul. We were not created for recreational dating and entertaining the idea of a relationship outside God original design. We were created for marriage, for covenant, and for a God given divine purpose and plan for our lives. When Jesus taught on marriage many were left speechless and ready to wash their hands with the whole idea of marriage, because it wasn't as carefree or as simple as they had believed it to be (Matthew 19:10-12).
The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.” Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” Matthew 19:10-12 NIV
The relationship that God created us with and for starts in and through prayer, because it is a spiritually divine creation, packed with great intention and purpose. All other relationships that we create and/or join together ourselves, regardless of what they look like, will not last. That is a divine certainty.
Prayer:
Father, thank you for the beautiful gift of marriage, please help us to submit to and understand your will when it comes to marriage. Forgive us for joining our own relationships together and thinking we knew better than you how to do this. Help us to want and seek your way, because it is best. For the times that we have awakened love before its time, please help rid us of the soul ties that you never intended for us to be intertwined with and let us go reach back to those we took with us down those roads and apologize for our part in it. We love you and its in Jesus name we pray this. Amen.