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Divorce was always more of a worldly statistic, but now has become the norm in the church as well. We have let the world change us, instead of being salt and light to the world. We date whomever we want and call it God, we marry whomever we want and call it God and then when it ends in divorce or a broken heart, we wonder where God was and why He let it all happen. It's amazing what we tell ourselves is God, without ever even asking Him and welcoming His will and truly waiting on and accepting His answer. We have truly lost our way and we must return to God's way, because He knows and wants what is best for us. Do we really want to hand destruction to our children and our children's children to come? Not to mention how hypocritical we are in our stances; we can do whatever we want, as long as it is not hard to look at. As long as on the surface everything looks in order, then everything is okay. The problem with that is eventually God will hand us over to our own evil desires and that is when we start dealing with things that are not so easy to look at and/or deal with. Not to mention that just cleaning things up at the surface, is not the message Jesus preached. Jesus went to the root of any and all issues, while He was here on earth and we should have that same focus.
We were warned in the Song of Solomon not to awaken love before its time and many of us have and we are dealing with the consequences of doing that today. We are dealing with divorce and kids having to be split between two homes. We are dealing with other people that we did not sign up for raising our kids and exposing them to things we never wanted them to be a part of. We are dealing with destruction of all types, all because we thought we knew better than God how to do life, marriage, love, and family. When we did not.
Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. Song of Solomon 8:4 NIV
Remember Sara and Abraham, when God stood before them promising and offering them a heritage? They dealt with things much like we do, when things were not happening in the time frame and the way they thought they should. They took matters into their own hands. They decided how things needed to go down and took an innocent bystander along for the ride with them. How many of us have done just that? We picked and decided that we were going to date this person and that person, all because that's what we wanted. We decided that we were going to marry this person and/or that person, all because that was what we wanted. We got divorced, because we decided that this wasn't going to work anymore and that this person had done too much to recover from. We had sex outside of marriage, because we did not want to wait and were trying to fill a need, longing, and/or desire that we needed to be filled. We told ourselves that we could do things like that and that God understood. We did all this and many of us are living with the consequences of those choices today and we, just like Sara, hate looking at what we've created. We hate having to deal with the ex and their new someone and we hate having to deal with that behavior coming from our kids that they get from their other parent. We hate having to pay child support, fighting in custody battles, and whatever else it is we are dealing with because of our choices. Much like Sara and Abraham.
Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.”Abram agreed to what Sarai said. So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my slave in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the Lord judge between you and me.”“Your slave is in your hands,” Abram said. “Do with her whatever you think best.” Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her. Genesis 16:1-6 NIV
Many of us are carrying around the heartache and wounds in our soul from awakening love that was never intended to be ours and its God desires to heal those places in us that got destroyed along the way. We just need to be still and come to the understanding that God knows best, we need to surrender to His will and way. His ways are not to rob us of life, but to give us life and protect us from the pitfalls of the enemy.
He says, "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” Psalms 46:10 NIV
Father:
Father, thank you for the transforming power of your love. Thank you for mercies being new every morning and that we can chose today to start serving you and surrendering to your ways. Thank you that we do not have to have all the answers, because Jesus is the answer. Thank you for loving us so much that you endured the cross to redeem us from the lies we believed in. Forgive us for the times that we thought we knew what was best and not looking to you. Help us to surrender. Help restore our souls from the damage we let in by doing things the worlds way, help us to repair the damage and seal us in your word so that we will not fall for satans lies again. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.